Am I ready to start dating? When is an acceptable age to start dating? How do I convince my parents to let me date? How young is too young to be in a romantic relationship? What does the Bible say about having a crush?
What does the Bible say about flirting? What should I look for in a Christian boyfriend? What should I look for in a Christian girlfriend? What does the Bible say about interracial dating and marriage? Can you give me some Christian relationship advice? How can I know if what I feel is love or just lust? Should a Christian date or marry someone who isn't a virgin? What should I do if I'm crushing on someone who isn't a Christian?
Is it OK for a couple to live together before marriage? Not a whole lot. So to get this answer about the timing of dating, we will have to come at this from another biblical angle. Who and how you date is more important than when you date. What the Bible does make clear, however, is that God wants healthy marriages to happen between two Christians 1 Corinthians , Proverbs This is why I believe the main guiding principal for all dating relationships is that they should have a goal of figuring out whether marriage is or is not going to happen between two people.
Therefore I believe Christians should only start dating when they are ready for marriage. If you are a male, are you ready to provide, protect, and lead your wife? If you are a female, are you ready to manage your household, raise children if you unexpectedly get pregnant, and respect the leadership of your husband? A mature year-old young man may be ready to be a godly husband more than a year-old guy still unemployed with a quick temper.
Most of the time there is some correlation, however, between age and maturity. Most 25 to year-olds will be more mature than most 18 to year-olds. Christians should start dating when they are ready to obey the word of God and fulfill their marriage roles without being dependent upon their parents. But are you ready to fulfill what the Bible says a Christian husband and wife should do for each other? If the answer is yes, then I believe you are ready to date. Dating without the purpose of seeing if marriage is right for you and the person you are dating, in my opinion, is definitely unwise and perhaps unbiblical.
Why do I say that? These three scriptures give insight into the Christian dating life. We need to realize that God means for us to meet the ONE person that we are meant to marry. According to Genesis , a man will leave home to marry one woman to become one flesh. You do not need to date a lot of people — just the right one. Also, Christian teens need to guard their hearts. Yet, we often live for love. While there are many definitions of love, 1 Corinthians tells us how God defines love.
It is love that should drive Christian teens to date, but it should not be the shallow version of love. When you date, it should be taken seriously. You should know the person you are dating and know their beliefs. You should check your potential boyfriend against the values listed in 1 Corinthians. Ask yourself if the two of you are patient and kind to one another. Are you envious of one another?
Do you boast about one another or to each other? Go through the characteristics to measure your relationship. God is pretty picky on this one, and the Bible makes this issue very clear.
The Bible seriously warns us about dating non-Christians. While you may not be looking at marrying anyone at the moment, it should always be in the back of your head. Why get involved emotionally with someone that you should not marry? This does not mean you cannot be friends with that person, but you should not date them. Your intentions may be noble, but the relationships rarely work out.
Some Christians have even gotten married to non-believers, hoping that they can convert their spouse, but often the relationships end up in disaster.
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